The sun that shines on the
asbestos roofs is the same as the one seen from the balcony of my cousin’s
spacious Raheja Residency apartment in Kormangala. It just feels different. It
is a matter of perspective. Everything is as we perceive it to be. As humans,
we are members of several groups. Each distinct in its own way. We adapt and
carry on with multiple identities through our lives. The success of an
individual is often determined by their ability to adapt to the changing
definitions of their groups.
In view of this fact, it would be
practically impossible to find a definite identity for a city filled with a
million such individuals. The city will change its sounds, flavors, colors and
nature with every street and neighborhood. Banashankari is not the same as
Jayanagar is not the same as Malleswaram or
Kormangala. Each a separate
element, that is part of a whole.
This holiday began as a break from
my practiced routine, in order to discover my identity, my one cause that
drives my life. Instead, I have come to the realization of a new existence. For
the last two weeks, my sojourns through the highs and lows of this young city
in India, have made me realize several things. So, forgive me if I get
philosophical in this blog.
The family is now preparing for
the third marriage in my generation. I am slowly realizing the fact that my
whole world is going to change permanently. I am now on the cusp of the realization,
yet like many people I, somewhat, resent this changing environment. My brother
was pointing out how our definitions of ‘the family’ changes drastically once
we get married. We go from being single adults with time for beer and movies,
to responsible men with chores, and financial liabilities. Marriage is not just
accepting someone else in your life, but opening the door to a whole new truck
full of people with a different surname. But, we still have to try to be part
of this changing
dynamics.
So I put on the faces to meet the
faces I meet. With elders, I am the impish rogue. With cousins, I am the
smartass from Bombay (Yes, they still pronounce it that way). With kids, I am
the storyteller. I am young. I am old. I am many things, and one thing at once.
There is something admirable in
the way a city accepts change. Unlike us, it does not let the change affect its
inherent quality. There might be a surplus of malls and KFC’s filled with low
jean wearing youngsters. There might be automatic cars racing down newly paved
concrete corridors; but the city of Bangalore has retained some of its orthodox
qualities. Somewhere deep down inside, it is still the same. Like the city of
my dreams, Mumbai.
‘Of the Unreal there is no
existence; Of the real there is no non existence”
The Vedic philosophy defines
reality as something that remains constant, in the face of eternal change. In
an ever changing world, where we shift our relationship dynamics according to
the need of the moment, such philosophy might seem redundant. Our relationships
change, our profiles change, our nature changes, our status messages change
constantly. Yet, there is something within that does not change, but remains
constant.
It is this constant value that
defines our identity more than anything else. We might be drunk yuppies at a
stinking bar, or a lecherous crowd whistling at the item girl on screen in a
theater, but we will close our eyes and pray when crossing a temple on the
street. We might hate mindless rituals, but will accede to be a part of it,
just so our parents enjoy a little comeback on the nosy neighbors. Values do
not exist in the activity, but in the thought that goes into it.
As I sit and write this, I am
outside the Vidyarthi Bhavan hotel in Gandhi Market area of Bangalore city.
Established in 1943, the small hotel has served generations of Bangaloreans. My
uncle, all of 78 years, has been eating here for the last 70 years of his life.
He tells me that the streets around the hotel have changed. Traffic has
increased. Political climes have changed. Superstars have moved on to other
galaxies. Sportsmen and musicians and litterateurs have vanished from the face
of the earth. But the masala in the dosa remains unchanged.
The constant. The reality. The
true identity.